Value your own opinion/judgement and avoid ignorance by jackie

We live in a great time for learning and communication via the internet but sadly I think some just surround themselves with comfort.

Years ago I learned that  sometimes a person that you would expect to know what they are talking about or have the good judgement in making a choice or decision can be wrong.  It could actual result in death.  Often it is disagreeing today on social media FB.  Many people except a FB post as the truth and surround themselves with like minded people which is cool except can lead to ignorance is bliss or willful ignorance

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I started to think about this couple days ago having a conversation with a friend in the USA on FB.  She is an educated person and a book keeper or accountant for taxes.  We had a disagreement about dividends and rate of tax.  She said ” I am a tax accountant and you are just a liberal with your views but you dont know what you are talking about.  Ok her argument was she was a tax accountant and I was just a tax payer so would not be informed.  When I did a google search and the first 2 that came up I used in my comment.  That was ignored.   haha  After all she was a “tax accountant”  and I was not!

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About 40 years ago my father had an accident and broke his back.  My mother was away shopping so as the oldest I was called to the hospital. I have never seen my father cry before. He was in so much pain!  The hospital tried to do x-ray  and there was a neurosurgeon on call.  That night they could not get an x-ray. They said ‘ it might be several days before they could do it.  My mother would not accept that answer as we thought my dad would be dead.  She arranged to have him moved to a extremely well known hospital and a world renown surgeon to see him.  The next morning moved, and x-rays and operated on , all with hours of arriving at the new hospital. The lower 3 vertebrae in his back was pulverized  My dads life was saved. I am not suggesting ignoring medical advice or expert advice.  But if you dont like the answer/advice  given, seek a new answer or do some RESEARCH!

Last year my 2 yr old son was running fever and not drinking water Sunday evening!  I wanted to wait till Monday morning to take to the doctor.  I could see he was becoming dehydrated.  I decided to take to emergency room. The doctor diagnosed him with hand, foot, mouth which I new nothing about but do know about dehydration.  After the doctor prescribed medication  and was going to send us home.  I asked the doctor did he think my son was dehydrated?  Yes was his answer. Did he think my son should be admitted to get an IV for fluids. answer “up to you”   My son was dehydrated because of blisters in his mouth and dehydration can cause death!  You can read more about hand foot mouth on an article i wrote, after my son was well and I did research.  The doctor was wrong about NOT HYDRATING my son!

I am not saying go against science or not listening to experts.   I am saying we are living in a time where all the information is available thru the internet and is FREE.  Do you need some wisdom and common sense in who to read?  YES   There are a few that for example that question vaccination of children for measles which ALL the MEDICAL  and SCIENTIFIC Community say and can prove it is safe and saves lives.  I believe in holistic medicine but that is with main stream medicine.  Get sick go to the doctor, but nutrition can help!

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Most of Europe and in the USA  there is freedom to question government, leaders.  In the USA we have done it for over 200 years.  Some countries can not question the leaders.  That does not mean you can not learn, research.  You may not be able to disagree in public but that does not shut down your brain.  History is a great teacher.

“That men do not learn very much from the lessons of history is the most important of all the lessons that history has to teach.”
Aldous Huxley, Collected Essays

“Those who don’t know history are doomed to repeat it.”
Edmund Burke

As an American I was taught american and world history in high school  and today amazed how many of my friends from then must have been asleep!  As so many american adults are so ignorant of american history,  The founding fathers and what they said and did.  How can you know what makes us american if you know nothing of what made  america, american!    The same would be true I think all civilizations.

I love the experience of meeting new people with different backgrounds.  I am blessed to have friends from many countries around the world and all religions. I often experience that some of my americans friends that are conservative will unfriend me on social media.  That is ok but I think dangerous to only surround yourself with people that agree with you.  In my HS, our asst principal and I were friends on FB.  He made a post headed “I may offend some” and then  list about 20 very short quotes all related  against liberals, socialism, government and how it was wrong to tax the rich.  Also made the comment that tax payers should never expect anything in return from a government that taxes it people!   I replied that I was disappointed that as an educator he had nothing to say that was inspiring and that as an educator working for a public school funded by tax payers (socialism) and worked there all his working life was that not a little strange coming from him?  He Unfriended me!  hahaha


Taken Fairhope, Alabama my great grandmother lived in Kansas

   That’s me long time ago, the youngest one in the photo with my 2 older cousins, my Great Grandmother next to me and my mother behind all of us.

I am the last (almost) of the people that I grew up with. My immediate family.  I say that as living away from those that are left, living 1/2 way around the world for all purposes I am the last one!  I think many expats during the holidays can feel that way.  Many of my friends live away from their home country and family. I see many comments/post reflecting the sadness and loneliness of the holidays!  I am the oldest of my siblings, and 3rd oldest of my 10 first  cousins.  I grew up in a close family where family was everything and important. I have letters where my grandparents wrote their family as far away as Europe.  Before the internet or telephone they would make the effort to stay in touch.  I may hear (email) from my sister, that growing up we were the closest, once a year and never emails back. My bother passed away number of years ago. My baby sister is a busy person with her church. I think it maybe just the sign of the times!  My sister Beth husband Dennis( more a brother than brother-in-law)  loves family and we do stay in touch.  I have a wonderful family in America, we love and miss each other.   We all can get busy in life.  Just dont forget to smell the roses along the way!  


Me,my mother, her mother and my sister

Belongingness the need to belong

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Belongingness is the human emotional need to be an accepted member of a group. Whether it is family, friends, co-workers, or a sports team, humans tend to have an ‘inherent’ desire to belong and be an important part of something greater than themselves. This implies a relationship that is greater than simple acquaintance or familiarity. The need to belong is the need to give, and receive attention to, and from, others.[1]

Belonging is a strong and inevitable feeling that exists in human nature. To belong or not to belong can occur due to choices of one’s self, or the choices of others. Not everyone has the same life and interests, hence not everyone belongs to the same thing or person. Without belonging, one cannot identify themselves as clearly, thus having difficulties communicating with and relating to their surroundings.[1]

Roy Baumeister and Mark Leary argue that belongingness is such a fundamental human motivation that we feel severe consequences of not belonging. If it wasn’t so fundamental, then lack of belonging wouldn’t have such dire consequences on us. This desire is so universal that the need to belong is found across all cultures and different types of people

Growing up, both my parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles  would visit their parents and siblings for vacations, holidays.  Made effort to stay close. Required driving, US Mail, and telephone (long distance phone calls then were expensive). My grandfather immigrated from Bohemia in the 1890s and when an old man flew back to see family back in Europe.  All required more effort, and often money compared to today with internet and almost free international calls. Digital photos that can be shared free!

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The oldest of the 10 first cousin David,  when he was dying, felt alone!  We talked many times the last several months before he died of cancer and was sad about how family had forgotten him.  He was also the last of my family, for me,  that we could talk about our families when they lived in Fairhope, Alabama  and he worked for my Dad so we had much in common, love of family, horses, boats and many vacations together as kids. “Need to belong is what makes us human”.  Holidays were important to David. He would cook and help make everyones holiday Happy. David was single, but during the holidays would cook a turkey even if he was alone at the end of his life!  “There is growing evidence that the interpersonal factor of belongingness is strongly associated with depressive symptoms. The impression of low relational value is consciously experienced as reduced self-esteem. Reduced self-esteem is a fundamental element of depressive symptoms” wikipedia

   We all live busy lives but we all spend our time how we want too. We spend our time on what is important to us. We are NOT busier than generations in the past.  We just have different things that we spend time on.

For me it is understandable  that I live away and not home with them for holidays and so dont have much in common and easily forgotten.  I am blessed at my age because I have small kids WOW I know!   They do take up much of my time and busy making family memories for them. One of the values of asian culture that attracted me to Thailand was the love of family and importance of family in daily life.

What can you do?

What can you do if you are an expat or old person and friends family do not care about staying in touch?  Nothing you can do will change them. NOTHING.  You have to be yourself, make new friends and contacts. The internet can let your explore the world. I have met and write people from all over the world all faiths!  Will you still miss them YES!

My great Uncle Bill did a family tree and we can trace my family back to 980  England.  He was well todo and when he did this it was actual traveling to tax office etc to look at public records.  I finish or updated the tree about 15 years ago.  Sadly, when I am gone no one that is left in my family will know anything about it as no ones cares now!

My commentary

This not about sadness but how I think some in todays generations have misplaced the value of family and knowing who you came from.  My humanity is based not just on my faith/religion but the example my grandparents, parents gave me.  Love of family. love of travel, love of nature, love of the journey, love of reading, love of learning/understanding, value of work, never give up, and even love of photography. The man in the photo with the field camera is my great grandfather Sam Beaty.  My oldest son is named after him. On the bottom row on the left is Jack Beaty.  My mother youngest sister is Jackie and I am Jackie. The young girl is my  grandmother Harriet Arzalia Beaty.  He mother, next to Sam Beaty, name was Harriet and we had 5 generations name Harriet. The boy in the middle is Harvey Beaty, My brother looked very much like him. When I was young and trying to make a place in life, be successful at work, easy to lose sight of the people you love the most. As I have become older many regrets of ME not choosing to give my time to my family. I am guilty too!  

If you have a Mac/Apple  you get a free app Facetime . You can call anywhere in the world free if on the internet!  Skype is also a free app.  If the person on the other end has Skype, that call is also free if on the internet. If not, very very cheap plans for international calls.  I have it Thailand to the US is about $3 for every 3 months. each month you get 60 min of call time. 

Reach out and touch someone


My Parents

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Early civilizations considered both exile and death as equal punishments. Individuals in other countries strive to belong so much that being exiled or shunned from their society is the biggest dishonor. Wikipedia

Relationships missing regular contact but characterized by strong feelings of commitment and intimacy will also fail to satisfy the need. Just knowing that a bond exists may be emotionally comforting, yet it would not provide a feeling of full belongingness if there is a lack of interaction between the persons. The belongingness hypothesis proposes two main features. First, people need constant, positive, personal interactions with other people. Second, people need to know that the bond is stable, there is mutual concern for one another, and that there will be a continuation of that attachment into the future. This means that the need to belong is not just a need for intimate attachments or a need for connections, but that the perception of the bond is just as important as the bond itself. They need to know that the other person cares about his or her well-being and loves him or her.

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Looking forward to life in 2016 and reflection of life past 2015

walkway along the water sunset Saphan Hin Park

 Looking forward to the adventure 2016 will bring  will take it 1 day at a time  Enjoy every day with the blessing of my kids and my family, friends!

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This is about my own personal life and of my Blog Life SE Asia Magazine.  I will cover just a little of the magazine first. It has certainly been an important part of my life in 2015 but not the most important part.

Life Se Asia Magazine 2015

Magazine is just a little older than a year.  My goal was ambitious as trying to cover all of SE Asia.  My primary core value was to have quality reliable articles/post with photos to tell the story!  We have over 35,000 visitors from 148 countries I think ok for  small magazine and goal has been quality not numbers.  Now have 4 companies that have accepted us as affiliates and created a YouTube channel .  We started off with almost 10 bloggers all voluntary.  Keeping them has been the hardest part.  Some go off on their own (which is good) some lose interest.  I hope one day to generate income, more to attract and keep bloggers than in my own pocket.

First photo for 2015

Lovely Chinese Shrine Tha Rua 4 serpants Phuket Thailand


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James King Artist Writer Traveller

That is my description of James King not his.  He list Blogger, Writer, Traveller, and Photography. I list Artist as fine art photography is ART

James King

I had the pleasure of meeting James this year when he was in Rawai Phuket Thailand.  So not just fellow bloggers but I consider him a friend.  James and I both came to Fine Art Photography or photography that has been “photoshopped” to reflect what we see not just what the camera captures, late in life after we retired. He has written several books which at the end will give you the Links and where you can buy them .

Why do a post/article about art?  Because we show the beauty before us.  To spark your interest in coming to SE Asia, to appreciate the culture, people and nature. To inspire you!

I want to focus on his art today and share some of my favorite pieces.  I will also give you the LINKS and where to view more and purchase at the end of the article.  I do suggest if you like a piece,  go and view at James site for better viewing quality!  These are just some of my favorites that I have picked.

Jamoroki Art


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I hope I have wetted your interest in his art and you will look at more of his work and buy

Information and Contact for James King   Jamoroki

James King at where you can  read short bio

Jamoroki    james king blog   Travel PhotoArt and  social awareness    You can also see his list of books for sale here.  

Jamoroki Art  to view more and information on buying


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